Make & Break

The seeds of structured program for Being, Doing, and Having more began in January 2011. A group of friends ruminating over typical January in New England (USA) - cold and snowy and concept of new year resolutions. I came up with:

January each year is famous for? Making Resolutions and Goals!

February each year is famous for? Breaking (forgetting, burying) Resolutions and Goals.

This stayed with me long after the laughter and sniggering over this truism had faded. I began looking back at all the goals I had set and achieved and not achieved. I realized I achieved them, because I gave myself no other choice, but to walk the path. I set the goal to study diligently in the 5th grade and just did it. This continued through my high school and undergraduate years (in India), and then graduate program (in USA), and into my professional work years. This was also true for personal achievements of buying a car, home, becoming US Citizen.

Just that Simple - Just be "Happy"?!

Was it just that - set the goal and walk the path? Then how is it that so many find it so difficult to reach their goals and targets? So, I decided to start an abstract project with the goal to Be HAPPY. Do all those things that make me Happy. Have happiness as a way of life. Lest did I know that this was the beginning of Be More. Do More, Have More.

A nebulous goal! I had to begin somewhere, anywhere and "today" was the day. So, began the journey on what makes "happy"?

I believe you attract to you that what you focus on - law of attraction

Books, courses, learnings, retrospective life stories, journaling and more took on a life of itself. I dove in deep industry leaders on Happiness, I asked questions and unearthed more questions and many answers. I developed my own questions, structures, and trackers to measure progress. I tested them and tossed out that didn't work, adopted and adapted that seem to nudge me in the correct direction.

Seek and Find a GOOD Accountability Mentor

That year, I wrote quarterly - looking back (what worked and what didn't) and looking forward. Looking forward put me squarely committing to doing this. I found myself writing smaller goals (read 3 books) rather than larger (read 10 books) goals. That's when I recruited a few people to be my accountability reporting mentor. Their role to allow me to read out loud each week - what task I completed, what I didn't, and what was setup for next week. For the things I didn't do, I had to state the reason.

This lead to clearly visualize what is needed for Accountability? As with me, and all the people I have mentored, the key role of the Accountability partner is to (a) Listen, (b) Believe (c) Hold Higher Expectations, (d) Support - hold space energetically, (e) Nudge gently, yet firmly. It is not to solve, but guide with stories and authentic real-life experiences.

Structured life without going nuts!

As 2012 rolled on in, I looked back at the year 2011, and found that I was "Happier in Present", all around calmer, more Zen, more approachable, peaceful, smiling more, and there was a sense of growing contentment and better resilience to handle the ups and downs of personal and professional life. Encouraged by this, and having a structured approach and accountability partners, I decided to expand this to more prongs of life - financial, education, home, yard, travel, loved ones, crafts.

After couple of years, being accountable became such a second nature to me, ingrained into my very cellular being, that I am able to track over time consistently without an accountability partner. When I do slide off, it irks me as if attacked by a thousand needles. My bounce back rate is less than a day.

Push through plateau - Results & Beyond!

Plateaus happen, as they did for me in 2019. Most of the arduous long duration goals and targets were met. I felt adrift, a ship with no port to go to. I had achieved all that I needed to and now what? This lead me to look at Be More. Do More. Have More in more deeper sense of unearthing evolved strengths, and attributes, explore new shores utilizing these strengths. I resurrected and looked at this from beginner and fresh eyes. This lead me deeper and to develop, looking back in my own history, several worksheets and plans.

Breakthroughs happened when I applied myself through the worksheets and results surprised me. I launched a craft teaching project for adults and ran knit-crochet for young-adults. My actions, led to more confidence, and more success than I have imagined possible.

Future is what I make of it!

I am continuously exploring, learning, experiencing and practicing in this life long quest of being better every day, doing more meaningful work, and receiving all the abundance the Universe bestows on me. I am supremely grateful for the journey and destinations I have (and continue) to reach. One of the greatest learnings and attracting abundance is sharing what I have with others, so others may learn from my wins and more so with my non-wins.

This and more, is what I deeply desire for you to experience.

Your. Success. Makes. My. Day.

Cheers,
Kirti your Life Coach